Dance with God, and He will let the right guy cut in.

Over the past few weeks I’ve had numerous girls come to me, with hurt in their hearts. They are confused. They are holding onto the past. They are worried there is no guy out there for them. They feel let down. They are insecure. They feel unworthy.

This hurts my heart. I hate that there are so many girls out there that feel these painful things. Girls, the enemy is real. His goal is to kill, steal, and destroy.

Whatever it might be… Whatever lie the enemy is feeding you… Whatever lie the world is telling you, show admonition toward it. Rebuke it in Jesus name. Don’t accept it. Don’t believe it. To every girl out there who has a yearning desire in her heart to love and to be loved by a true man of God, I can confidently say he is out there. He is pursuing the Lord. The only reason He is going to look up is because God is going to tell him, that’s her.

Never let a man tell you you’re not worth pursuing. God became man, died, and rose again just to pursue you. You are worth pursuing. You are loved. You are beautiful. Not because society says so, not because man says so, not because your friends say so, not because the scale says so, not because you wear scandalous clothes (side note: modest is hottest ladies), not because the mirror says so, but because God says so.

 

You are God’s masterpiece. (Ephesians 2:10)

  

So, I am going to assume you’re wondering whom all these good guys are…

And more so where to find them.

Here is my answer. The “good guys” aren’t concerned with being Mr. Popular, they aren’t going to be out bar hopping, you aren’t going to find them shot gunning beers on game day, and so on. They are chasing after Jesus with everything that they have. They are out striving to be that man of God, which God has called them to be. They are out serving their hearts out, and loving people. They are proclaiming the good news, and making Jesus name famous. These guys are leaders; they aren’t out being followers of all the worldly ways. They are in the word daily. They are at church, and worshipping every chance they get. They have realized they aren’t perfect, but run to the cross and seek Jesus’ help.

Don’t lose hope. Don’t settle. Don’t let the enemy lie to you.

 

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)

 

Advice:

  • You must be complete in Christ before you are ready to date.
  • Don’t put your trust in a man unless he can first put his trust in God.
  • When you date well, you marry well.
  • Set boundaries.
  • Healthy dating relationships are something you make, not something that just comes along.
  • Serve together.
  • Be committed.
  • Know that wisdom is more important than feelings.
  • Be with the guy who is seeking God, even when you are not there.
  • He must be a man of character. (Chances are, he won’t always be hot!)
  • Seek accountability

 

 

Would you marry someone like this?

Would you marry someone like this? (link to video)

Wow, at the truth spoken in this video!
God can’t fill you when you’re full of yourself. Don’t be a part-time Christian who demands a full-time God.
God is always with us; He isn’t a part-time God. He always has time for us. He never betrays us. He loves us. He sustains us. He is on our side. He goes before, and makes a way. He is your number one fan.
Jesus himself said,
“Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. The one who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love them and show myself to them.” (John 14:21)
“Christianity without the presence of God is just religion” -John Bevere
This quote could not be more true. God doesn’t want a religious experience for you, He wants a personal relationship with you. Religion says do, Jesus says done.
I call on the Lord in my distress, and he answers me. Save me, Lord, from lying lips and from deceitful tongues. Psalm 120:1-2
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6
For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth. Revelation 3:16
Prayer: Lord, I come to you today with an apologetic heart. I’m sorry for turning to things of the world. Today I give everything to you that is holding me back. I give you my past. I give you my fears. Instead of letting these things rule my life, I will embrace your grace and power to boldly walk out the calling you have for me.
In Jesus name, Amen
 

It started on Facebook, now we’re here

It is a paramount necessity for us to realize God’s timing is greater than ours, and He is greater than us. Many times in life we try to force, ignore, avoid, look over (you get my point) things… when instead we should seek God and His heart for the decisions we are making and the direction we are going. The enemy will (and is going to) try to sneak in, through your weaknesses, and convince you of anything that will throw a kink in you glorifying God.

God has never failed you, and He won’t start now. Seek Him. He answers prayers in three ways: yes, no, and I have something better in mind. Listen to Him, and trust that He has a grand plan!

 

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.” (Jeremiah 29:11-14) 

 

Let’s be honest… we all like the ‘yes’ answer, because ‘yes’ is easy to do. Typically, it (the yes) doesn’t cause change or a leap from the comfort zone. Yes, go ahead. Yes, sounds good. Yes, you’re right. Yes, is good to hear. Fact of the matter is, yes is not always the best answer.

The ‘no’ and ‘I have something better’ is bound to come your way.

No can mean no. No can mean not now. No can vary when being defined, every situation is different. When God asks you to give something up, He isn’t trying to take something from you; He’s trying to give you something better. Don’t try to take control of the situation, you’ll end up deeply unsatisfied. Instead, give it to God. Place it in His hands. Allow Him to lead you and take control. When God gives you a ‘no’, He is protecting you from less than His best – be thankful! God closes doors because it’s time to move forward. He knows your heart and knows that there is going to be times that you will not move forward unless circumstances force you to do so. God closes doors to protect you from things. God closes doors that are supposed to be opened at a later date. You are not always ready when you think you are.

[ Lo note: If you’re anything like me you push feelings, hurt, etc. to the side. STOP! Things have to be taken care of, and taken care of the right way. Sometimes there is healing that needs to take place, and heart changes that need to be made in order to reach your full potential in God’s calling. Don’t dwell on the past, but deal with it. Deal with it God’s way! ]

There are numerous reasons God could be giving you a no…

You may not always understand God’s plan for you (actually there is no way you will), but accept and trust them; because His decisions are far better than yours. You may not be able to fully pursue His kingdom if you stay at the level of comfort you’re in. Allow yourself to get uncomfortable. Put your trust in God and He will guide you. He’ll lead you where He’s called you to be and soon enough you’ll be in awe, thanking Him. Jesus always has the best outcome, those of which we could never imagine!

 

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9)

 

Personal story: Sarah and I are really good friends. I mean really, really good friends. The kind of friends who just know… we know when something is wrong, when something is right, when the other needs a hug, when the other needs space, and so on. This wasn’t always the case though. Back it up! Sarah and I met (well kinda) through Facebook, yes I said Facebook.

Sarah: So I know this is super random and hopefully you’re not creeped out haha but I’ve heard how inspiring you are from other people and I just thought I should let you know how awesome and encouraging your faith is. The light of the Lord shines through you in amazing ways – I hope you know that!

Lauren: Ahh thank you for messaging me. You are the sweetest, that just made my week! Living a life that glorifies God isn’t always the easiest or ‘coolest’ thing, but in reality it is cool! God loves us! He loves me. He loves you. He loves us despite our flaws and sins and is continually pouring out love and grace over us!

Honestly, after the tornado I was tired, tired of random messages. I had stopped responding. But something (God) told me to respond, so I did.

First came dinner, then came besties. A few weeks later we met in Georgia, at Six Flags, and had a blast! That was just confirmation that this friendship was meant to be. We just knew it was the God sent friendship that we had both been praying for. Weeks later, we went to MOTION Conference together. Wow, God moved. He rocked our world. Then, what we never saw coming hit us in the face. Sarah and I went through a season where we could not be friends. Trusting that God knew what He was doing during this time wasn’t always easy, matter of fact it wasn’t easy at all. Especially when we had no level of patience and wanted to take matters into our own hands which obviously caused more trouble. We fought, we cried, we would awkwardly stare, we ignored, we pleaded, we did it all… Well what we thought was everything we could do. We did everything but, surrender. We hadn’t given our friendship to God. He was teaching us a lot of things through this season. He taught us not to listen to the lies of the enemy. He told us not to have selfish tendencies, that we are called to put others first. He taught us that it’s so important not to stay in a place of comfort, however it is important to have a friend that holds you accountable and knows almost everything about you. He’s taught us community. That no matter how much we try and push people away, we’ll come to a dead end…a realization. He knows we can’t do life alone, He designed the world that way. Our God is a God of relationships and He places people in our lives at a specific time for a specific reason. It’s up to Him whether that person stays or not. The list goes on… but, I truly believe a paramount thing God was teaching us both was to trust His timing. We weren’t ready to be friends. We both needed to grow closer to the Lord. We both had personal issues and pain that needed to be taken care of.

No worries guys! We are the best of friends again! It started on Facebook, now we’re here!

Now, once again, we can say this is a God sent friendship. Just this time we can glorify God’s kingdom through it. The timing is right.

 

Kings will be your foster fathers, and their queens your nursing mothers. They will bow down before you with their faces to the ground; they will lick the dust at your feet. Then you will know that I am the Lord; those who hope in me will not be disappointed. (Isaiah 49:23)

 

The way I think we (as girls) should interpret this: She who trusts the Lord will never be disappointed.

Encouragement: Chase after God and His heart for you – so that in turn you will reach the full potential He has for you! 

 

But what does it say? “The word is near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart,” that is, the message concerning faith that we proclaim: If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” (Romans 10:8-11)

 

Prayer: Lord, I pray that each day I will walk with a new boldness and confidence. Set a burning desire inside of me to seek you, and you only. I want to know your plans, guide me. I want to know your heart, show me. I trust you, your plan for my life, and your timing for the calling you have placed on me. I rebuke every lie the enemy is telling me and declare victory over the things I’m doing that are going to glorify your kingdom.

In Jesus name, Amen

Journey to Jesus

On 4/28/14 my world was forever changed. A tornado swept through my home town, Tuscaloosa AL, that caused my basement to collapse, landing a 2,000 pound + concrete wall on me and my boyfriend. In the midst of pure shock, almost positive I was about to die, the only thing I could think about was if I was going to Heaven or Hell. The unknown was terrifying. Not because I was living this awful life, but because I wasn’t living a life sold out for The Lord. At this point I had gasped to the point I was out of air, and John looked at me and says, “I’ll make sure you’re ok, whether I’m ok or not” and pushed the concrete wall off of me. This same concrete wall six fireman together struggled to move. Fast forward a few days trying to wrap my mind around everything that had happened… My basement caved in, walls collapsing, watching someone I care about take his last breath saving my life, my world was turned upside down. I clung to the verse, Jeremiah 29:11. The verse says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I realized God didn’t do this to hurt me. He is for me, not against me. Even in the midst of so much confusion (which I now realize is from the enemy, because God is not a God of confusion) I knew He had a grand plan. This would all be used to glorify His great kingdom. He had and has a plan for me. He has a great calling on my life. I packed up the next month on journey to a summer in Lake Tahoe, on a Christian leadership project, that would forever change my life. After spending a summer with 60 other college students craving to know more and more of Jesus, and leaders who wanted nothing more than to help put the pieces together and make His name known I’ll never be the same. I’m not here to say I live a perfect life, because I don’t. I was lost and broken, but now I’m found and forgiven. I’m not claiming to be strong, because I’m not. God is my strength. I still feel pain and have heartache, like everyone else, but I can call on His name and He will grant me comfort and peace. I’ve pled, I’ve turned to things of the world, and I’ve made mistakes. But God tells me I’m worth it, I am enough, and He loves me – He met me where I was and transformed my life in His Holy presence. Now I walk in freedom and I am a walking testament to His great grace.

Acts 20:24 However, I consider my life worth nothing to me; my only aim is to finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me – the task of testifying to the good news of God’s grace.